Ok, so we have all heard about the rocky start for these two. The restraining orders, the divorce, Usher firing his mother (who has been his manager for years), the called off wedding and then the secret ceremony. We have also read about Tameka not wanting another female too close to her second husband and father of her 3rd (or 4th) child. If you view Usher’s current video, it is painfully obvious that he is NOT himself. The eletricity is gone. Once someone loses their spark you have to look at what has changed in their life. If you read body language, this picture speaks volumes. Usher is leaned in closer to MJB than he is to his wife. Usher just looks like he is there and everyone else looks like they are enjoying themselves.
I have to question if Usher is actually in an abusive relationship (not physically, but emotionally).
How can you tell if you are in an abusive relationship?
1- The person you are with tries to make you feel like less of a woman or man.
2- The person you are with tries to control major aspects of your life (your friends, your finances, your actions, your attire).
3-The person you are with cuts you off from your own family.
4- The person you are with has violent outbursts.
5- You feel like you have to hide anything from that person that would make them the least bit unhappy.
If you are in an abusive relationship, get out. You did nothing to deserve to be in such a relationship and that person will NOT change.
Both physical and emtional abuse leaves scars that last. If you think you are hiding it from your friends and family, you are wrong. When you are abused your spirit is taken away from you.
(PS- cheating is abuse as well, if your partner is cheating on you then this also applies to you).
I have been a few places, seen a lot of things. I have had my hands in many fields. I may have answers for you if you have questions...even if you don't.
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