We have all seen it. That one friend that tells you to dump your mate for every little infraction. That one buddy that always goes after the person you are interested in. The friend that stays in a relationship they have no business being in. Have we ever sat down and thought about why the majority of the decisions we make in the name of “love” or “lust” are not sane or rational decisions? If you are a person’s friend, why would you give advice that would jeopardize their happiness? Are people genuinely jealous of what others have…or are they covering up for something else lurking inside of them?
If you took and informal poll, you would find that most people are afraid of being alone. This fear that eats away at your soul silently, leads you to make major judgment errors.
If you took time out and looked at all of your former mates, you will probably cringe when you realize how caught up you were over a person that never should have been on your radar.
Someone posed this question to a group..
Have anyone come to the conclusion yet that they just maybe alone the rest of their lives?
My response..
Yes, I actually use that belief while seeing someone. I find it easier to not place the pressure of “this may be the one” on relationships, that way I am not too pressed and neither is the guy. I may date one person at a time, but I am far from picking a wedding dress out mentally while getting ready for a 3rd date.
When you get to the point of accepting the possibility of being single, you will find that jealous feeling you sometimes get when someone announces their engagement or talks about their relationship vanishes. If you are the friend that encourages destructive behavior in other people’s relationships and you become one with yourself, you urge to create drama vanishes.
If you stop focusing on what you do not have and what you can not get, your life will take a positive turn.
I am not saying to shut out the possibility of being with someone…
If you are secure with yourself, you are more likely to find someone you can grow with. Never look for your other half…
This belief will also help you see red flags while dating.
Shel Silverstein said it best…
I have been a few places, seen a lot of things. I have had my hands in many fields. I may have answers for you if you have questions...even if you don't.
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